Thoughts on Dating in Huntsville From a Man's Point of View:
- One brave male shared his dating experience with me: As for a man's point of view, I can give you what I've seen and heard out on the prowl, both in my own experience and that of my friends and associates. The crowd I hang around with likes to socialize in large groups when possible, usually clustering up at restaurants and certain clubs or venues (favorites are Vinyl, Flying Monkey Arts, and the underground events at Lowe Mill). We're mostly late-twenties, which makes me younger than the average, and tend to be a bit like the social group that used to be call Bohemians, in that we like art, music, and celebrating life in whatever way strikes us. Most of the guys are in technical or art-related fields, most of the women in retail or desk jobs, and we all seem to share a certain literary or cultural bent.
Women, though...It's gotten tougher out there, especially as more women are experimenting with bisexuality and other pursuits that give the guys even more competition than we used to have. I can count on one hand how many of them I speak to regularly (outside of work) that haven't at least played around with another woman at one point. That might surprise some people, especially here in the south, but it would seem that things are shifting along at their own pace. Another thing that's making it difficult is that a lot of women seem to be taking up, at least vocally, the 'women's lib' mantras without really doing anything with them. We still are expected to pay, be gentlemen, and generally do everything our forebears were supposed to, while also keeping a perilous balance of propriety and being the bad boy that it seems young women really want.
I don't believe for a moment that women really want nice guys, or at least not the ones from my generation. I see them going after the guys with motorcycles, fast cars, money, and drinking habits, not the responsible ones with day jobs and a 401k. Oddly enough, they come to me when things go wrong, because what they want nice guys for is a friend who actually understands them and is safe, when the danger isn't attractive anymore. Then, days or weeks later, it's back on the prowl
for another 'fixer' - a guy who gives them a lot to work on, even if they never manage to get him to change. Those guys are the ones you never see without someone hanging off of them, and I guess it might go back to the survival urges and some crooked take on their supposed ability to protect their young. Too bad it doesn't do anything on the nights they have to be bailed out for bar fighting again. Bitter? Me? Never!
Dating on the Internet
I did a story a few years ago about one Huntsville lady who used AOL's personals to find some dates. She shares some good advice about the pitfalls to look for when meeting a stranger. Please be careful when you choose to meet people this way! I know a lot of people in Huntsville who met their future spouse on the internet and are living happily ever after....but that's not always the case. Here's just a few places you might try online:
OK, Cupid
Comment from a user: For the younger crowd, the site at OK, Cupid seems to blend in a huge chunk of sardonic humor with their matching, which is done through a quest-matching database with the novel approach of building up based on questions submitted by users. They range from the banal (sports and such), to the geeky (things like computers, Monty Python), to the philosophical and political (is it okay for people to steal to feed themselves if starving?). I like their presentation, their classification system, and the general feel of the place, but most of the people I've gotten much of a connection with are, sadly, far away. One bonus, though: it's free.
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